What do you do when you have had enough?

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I think I have some real big emotions going over the last few days. The last two days have been really rough. I actually broke down crying with frustration. It comes a time where you feel like giving up as you feel like a failure. Granted I would never give up.

I suppose your wondering where this is all coming from. The last two mornings with Dakota have been rough. Yesterday I can’t really remember. I know that he really hurt my feelings and I felt like walking out the door and not coming back. Please don’t think I would. I had a great cry. My husband said to my son are you happy you made your mother cry. My son wanted to give me a hug. I just needed my space and said just give me a little time. He ran off crying.

Well shortly after the good cry I had the day got better. Well I forgot to send Dakota’s meds with Earl when he went to his parents. So he came back bouncing off the walls. Missing a med screws up the whole day! Although last night wasn’t that bad.

This morning it starts again. He comes in my room loud and obnoxious when he wakes up and wakes up his sister. I was so mad and frustrated. He started talking sassy. Again I got frustrated and started crying.

Things are going fine now. In fact he wants to go apple picking. LOL

I am really frustrated as he doesn’t understand others emotions. He doesn’t understand how to react to emotions. Sometimes I wonder if he does it on purpose. Whether or not he is it’s another story that I don’t have answers for.

In fact the boys played xbox together with no bickering… Wait are these MY kids? They are argue all the time and bicker back and forth. I loved the moment that the two were working together. Since then the morning has been fantastic.

What do you do when you feel like you have had enough? When things get so frustrating and you know it takes nothing but time to change if it changes at all?

20 Responses to “What do you do when you have had enough?”

  • 1

    I’m so sorry you are feeling so frustrated. I know it is hard, because not only are you feeling frustrated, you are starting to feel a little clausterphobic and add a bit of guilty to that and you are a mess. It is at those times that I usually tell my hubby that I really really really need a bit of time away, that I have hit my limit. As long as I tell him what I need, he is good about it. I usually go out with a girlfriend for at least an hour or two, and my husband usually lets me take a nap by myself for once. Or, if your hubby is busy, maybe a friend can help you. Depending on what is making me crazy, sometimes I will also spend a little one on one time with my son. that extra attention is often what he needs too, and we usually get a good heart to heart in (as much as you can with a two year old). You are not alone. You are a great and loving mommy, but even super mommy’s need a recharge now and again. big big big {hugs}
    .-= Vicki@frugalmomknowsbest´s last blog ..Pack-rat, hoarder, crazy, or just sentimental? =-.

    admin Reply:

    Thanks Vickie. At least today no flying spit balls towards me… LOL My husband was off yesterday and I got a little break as he took Dakota with him to his parents. So I recharged. LOL Today my husband is working but the morning really wasn’t as bad as yesterday. I am thankful for that. We went apple picking today and got a pumpkin. That’s a post for tomorrow though. Lots of laughs too. LOL I feel much better now that I vented.

  • 2
    Jen says:

    I’m so sorry you have hit a rough patch and I wish I could give you hug to let you know I understand and care.

    I don’t have a child with autism so I don’t know if I can really relate but I have cared for my mentally and physically handicapped mother since I was 4 and so I have an idea of what kind of frustration you are feeling. I hit the walls so many times I didn’t know what I was going to do. The worst time was during my divorce to my second husband, our daughter was an infant. I was taking care of my daughter, my son and my mother and was sure I was not going to survive. I had little support from friends or family and think I got through it by the grace of god, and I’m not religious so I don’t say that lightly. I just tried to get through each day and I probably drank more than I should. I made some hard decisions, I couldn’t take care of my mom and my kids so I had to make a choice. Mom moved to a care facility where she is getting much better care than I could ever give her. I’m not suggesting you do this just telling you what I had to do. It sounds like you have a great husband and that is worth gold. Take break if you can, even a good cry helps me feel better, and know that you have people who care about you even if you haven’t met them in real life.
    .-= Jen´s last blog ..Blogging 101 =-.

    admin Reply:

    Thanks Jen! Like you said it’s just a little rough patch. There are days we take one step forward and days we fall back a few steps. I feel much better then I did this morning. Things will get better. I am going to try really hard to chart behaviors to see what happend during those times to see why this is going on. Although some of it I just don’t understand and it does get frustrating. I give you alot of credit for taking care of your mom. It’s hard to take care of someone else. I don’t mean the kids. I mean someone older. Tomorrow is a new day! Thanks for your kind words that really means a lot.

  • 3
    Tammy says:

    Venting helps. Just taking time and talking or writing it all help. Taking a break away from everyone, even if it is just for an hour also helps me. Like Vickie, my husband will step in when I have reached my limits.
    .-= Tammy´s last blog ..Six Things You Love or Hate About Autumn =-.

    admin Reply:

    Earl does the same thing by stepping in. More things seem to go wrong when he is at work. After I vented I felt much better. Some days I just get so frustrated because I just don’t understand why he does what he does.

  • 4
    Theta Mom says:

    Sorry to hear you are going through a rough time right now. I have difficult days with my son, too so I know how you feel. I feel better after a good cry, but what helps me is when I talk to my mom. She is such a good listener and it helps me to talk it out with her.
    .-= Theta Mom´s last blog ..What’s the Deal Dr. Brown? =-.

    admin Reply:

    It’s all good! The day got better as it went on. I hope tomorrow is a better day. Actually it should be he has school. LOL Although I have to deal with the school on some bullying issues.

  • 5
    Femmepower says:

    I’m so sorry to hear about that.I sometimes feel frustrated like that but now you made me realize how shallow I am to be frustrated with issues so puny, so petty compared to yours.After all,I only have one child and she has no autism issues. Surely I admire you for handling your kids well no matter how challenging it is. It’s just that there are things that are beyond your control.

    There’s no hard and fast rule in parenting. I guess our best card as parents is our big,unconditional love to our kids. And that same big love also keeps us going. It’s that same big love that makes us happy at the end of the day.
    .-= Femmepower´s last blog ..A day at the mall =-.

    admin Reply:

    I think even parents with kids with out Autism have days like this. I am thankful it wasn’t as bad as yesterday. Tonight he was helping me organize my cabinets again. He was made that his brother was not putting things in the proper place. He sure does have a way of making you smile. He is such a sweet boy when he wants to be.

  • 6
    Grampy says:

    It is amazing how soon they forget the grief they gave us.Or in Dakota’s case he may not even be aware of it.It does however show how much he loves you when he comes back and does things with you.As a parent I think you are doing a fantastic job. It probably helped a lot when he went with his Dad. You need to get that pressure off of you. If for only an hour or two.
    Hope all goes well.
    .-= Grampy´s last blog ..Doll House and Etc. =-.

  • 7

    I don’t have kids myself so I don’t know how difficult it must be to live and care for a child with autism. I was a shadow for 3 months to an autistic child last year so I know how sometimes, they can get unruly and even violent.

    I admire you for your strength of your love for your kids. So, hang in there. Tomorrow is another day. :D
    .-= Isis @ Pinaybackpacker´s last blog ..One Step At A Time =-.

  • 8
    Karen says:

    I’m sorry. I’m always here to listen. You have my email too!
    .-= Karen´s last blog ..Weight Loss =-.

  • 9

    I’m glad you are feeling better! I love fall activities, we always pick our pumpkins and go through a corn maze.
    .-= Vicki@frugalmomknowsbest´s last blog ..A hectic day and your goodies for today =-.

  • 10

    Those can be very frustrating moments. I’m sorry you have to go through them. When I get frustrated to the point that I’m at my wit’s end, I take a time out. I ask my son or whoever is with me to give me some alone time (if I can). A nice walk usually helps.

    I’m hear for you if you need a virtual shoulder.
    .-= Maria@Conversations with Moms´s last blog ..Don’t make this mistake =-.

  • 11
    COUNTRY MOM says:

    Stacey, I am sorry you have had some rough days and not felt well. What do I do? I pray, by myself and with my children. Talking together as a family has helped us a lot. Taking time out like you did is great. Everyone needs time to relax. Talking to my husband helps a lot. I am always here if you ever want to talk.
    .-= COUNTRY MOM´s last blog ..Catching Up… =-.

  • 12
    Denesa says:

    You are a strong mom. There are times when we mommies feel that enough is enough and we decide to just take a break. It is not good to store it within you and so it is good to let it out. At the end, we know that we will never walk out of our children, with faith that tomorrow will be a better day. Take Care!
    .-= Denesa´s last blog ..His Papa or Her Papa? =-.

  • 13

    Oh gosh, yes, kids just don’t understand the undercurrents of what we as parents feel and go through. They breeze happily along and if their needs are met they’re happy. We all have days when we’d just rather cry, I’m sure!
    .-= Annette Piper´s last blog ..Amazing dust storm and sharing creativity =-.

  • 14

    It seems to be happening more and more as my oldest gets sassier…If I have really had enough, I put them in the car and take a drive. No plans to get out, but just to drive. It calms everyone down. I grab a coffee and play some kids music or a video. If we can’t get out, her tough behavior is usually because she’s looking for attention. I put away my laptop, stop whatever chore I was doing and just play with her. Works like a charm, and kind of makes me feel like a crappy mom at the same time, but at least she’s finally happy!
    .-= LZ @ My Messy Paradise´s last blog ..When Technology might not work for me =-.

    admin Reply:

    I never thought of just packing them up and taking them for a drive. Don’t get me wrong I have done it for myself. I am going to have to try that next time.

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