Serious Thinking – Autism- Homeschool Vs School

When Dakota was back in Kindergarden things were really tough with school. It was Dakota’s first time going to school all day. In October of that year he started regressing in his speech as well as his fine motor schools. Things he remembered he started losing. He missed almost a half of year of school because he was sick.

The Doctor wrote a really nice note to the school that stated something along the lines that Autistic kids and stress tend to be sick more then other kids. It also stated kindly for them to excuse his abscence. Well I think I am going to need another note this year.

Dakota has missed about 8 days of school since it started in September. I have already heard the comments oh I am concerned he is missing so many days. Well school policy is if there is a fever the kids have to stay home until they are fever free for 24 hours. As soon as Dakota returned the Vice Principal even mentioned that I needed a Doctors excuse.

Ok fine and dandy if that is what they want they should get it. I had a Doctors appointment to get some labs so I just asked that morning for them to send on. I am starting to feel the stress of the school. I have no control when my son is sick. I am not ready to deal with the negative comments again. I am also concerned that he is going to get sick more again in the future.

I had a little heart to heart talk with my dad yesterday. I was telling him about a conversation I had with another person. I explained to her that I was looking in a Charter School as a possibility and last resort. I am also going to talk to another school in a different county that I heard had a wonderful special ed program.

Well the conversation kinda went like this. Don’t quote me here I might be taking something to heart as my dad calls me The Raging Bull. LOL

Me: I am looking into Charter Schools. What is the sense of Dakota going to school if he misses a half year again? (worst case scenario)

Her: He gets structure and structure is something he doesn’t get at home.

Me: Well I just feel like he is missing out on an education:

Her: I don’t think you can give him that structure.

Well that alone mad me mad. If I set MY mind to something I can do anything.

I admit he didn’t have structure when I homeschooled him. I was very lost in homeschool as the state doesn’t give you all the information you need. They tell you the subjects he needs and that he has to have 975 hours in and that’s it. No tests, no accountability, no nothing. I didn’t like that. I didn’t have to much support in the homeschool world as I didn’t know many people.

I feel like I have failed Dakota as he is behind. I worked so hard with reading and math that I forgot about spelling and other things he needed. I was trying to work on the areas he was weak in.

Well with the charter school it’s a public school that sends you all the curriculum, you have to log on to the computer, and their is accountability. I want to look into this further.

There is a website called SchooGo. It’s a great free online resource that provides very good information about schools. I am going to look at this site when looking at the Charter Schools in our state.

Now I am not saying I want to go and do the homeschooling/charter school route again. I am leaving that as an option. I am really going to research my options this time. I am also going to whole heartedly work with the school and see if we can come up with a plan. I want to set up a meeting and talk about homework and sick time. Create a plan and get on the same page as the teachers.

Dakota has made some gains at school this year already. So far everything has gone smoothly. I am just not ready to have a long drawn out fight and feel again he isn’t getting what he needs. Him being sick and regressing and them not understanding the autism is the reason I pulled him out to homeschool him.

If I should decide to do the Charter School down the road I WILL create structure and a schedule for Dakota. I have to in order to get things done. I am trying very hard to create some structure now. I can do ANYTHING I set my mind too. I already proved that to myself in college getting a 4.0 and graduating with High Honors. Something I NEVER did in my life before.

If you homeschool your child I would like to know what curriculum do you use? How do figure out exactly what they are to learn? What does your state require? What made you decide to homeschool? Do you use a charter school?

Any information would be awesome!

Again I am not saying I am going that route again. I just want to hear other’s experience and what they are doing. As I research into the Charter Schools I am going to share them here so I can remember to go back and look at them when and if I have to make that decision. I am also going to share what is going on with the school now and the other schools I am going to look into.

Thanks Bunches! If you got this far thanks for reading!

24 Responses to “Serious Thinking – Autism- Homeschool Vs School”

  • 1

    wow, what a fantastic entry! I found you on MBC Follow Me Club and now following….can’t wait to spend some more time checking out your blog. looks great:)
    .-= Shirley Rempel´s last blog ..Happy 1st Blog Anniversary! =-.

    admin Reply:

    Thank you Shirley! Thanks for the follow. I will follow you back as well 🙂

  • 2

    I no longer homeschool because my kids are in an amazing school district but I did briefly. My son is not autistic but he does have some learning issues so I’m always keeping tabs on homeschool options. There are some great online school options that I’m looking into just in case I need to go back to the homeschool route. But I personally think the best way to go is a homeschool ring where you gather up a few moms and each take turns teaching different subjects. It give the child a little socialization plus the structure of going somewhere at least a few times a week. Just my humble opinion : )

    admin Reply:

    Thank you so much for sharing your opinion Mandala Michelle. I appreciate it greatly!

  • 3
    Tammy says:

    You know that I am pulling my son out at the end of the month and will be homeschooling him. Last time we did this, I was told by everyone that I was making a big mistake. They said I couldn’t do it. When they started to see a big change in my son, they changed their minds.

    Going into it this time, I will be following a put together curriculum. I need to go online and print out the curriculum requirements for his age and grade. Once I have done this, I will make use of some of the books I already have, the library and the internet. Dean learns so quickly, that I think it would be a waste of money to buy textbooks for every subject. I am going to buy textbooks for math later on. I have student and teacher books for Pre Algebra, which is where he is at in math right now.
    .-= Tammy´s last blog ..Autism Moms Thursday Pet Peeves =-.

    admin Reply:

    Thanks Tammy! I don’t know where things are going to go right now. The school has been cooperating lately so I am really trying hard to work with them this time. I honestly believe he needs structure and right now the structure at school is more then I can give him at the moment. If I do decide to homeschool again it will be through a Charter School for sure. Then I know exactly what he has to learn and it’s all recorded with the state too. That makes me feel a lot better. There is way more accountability for me there. I know I can provide the structure if I really set my mind too it. I need more time with the school as right now they are doing ok. I guess what sent me flying off the handle was already I am hearing how much school he is missing and that really bothers me. I know I shouldn’t take it personally. It just gets irritating. So it will be interesting to see how our meeting goes. I wish you luck in homeschooling! I really appreciate your input!

  • 4
    Grampy says:

    If you are going to home school that is the way to go. The local school system is suppose to give you a curriculum. Go from there. The internet has what you need. You just have to stay in the guide lines of the local Board of Education.
    Good Luck. I believe it would be best for him. Just remember to keep socializing. He needs some peer interaction.You have a lot of work ahead of you.
    .-= Grampy´s last blog ..Vintage Desserts =-.

    admin Reply:

    Grampy I really enjoy my break away from Dakota while he is at school. I do think that he enjoys it. Right now I am working with the school. So far I really can they have been accommodating from Day 1. The teacher is not afraid to communicate with me or talk to the special ed teacher for advice. So I am really happy with that. Maybe I am just more aware of things now after how things went. I really feel like I failed him when we homeschooled. I did learn a lesson from it too.

  • 5

    I have no words of advice as I am not in your situation, but I just wanted to give big {hugs} I know you will make the right decision for Dakota!
    .-= Vicki@frugalmomknowsbest´s last blog ..Tricks & Tweets for our little Sweets Costume Contest! =-.

    admin Reply:

    Thank you Vicki! I am just frustrated with Dakota being sick already so much this year already into the first month of school. I don’t know what this year will bring as far as him being sick. I know he has stressors through out the day. I am learning better to identify things with him. It’s all a learning process. I know my husband would feel better if he stayed in school. He didn’t really say much when I talked about the charter school. I have some research to do that is for sure. These are only options if I feel that the school is not living up to expectations. So far they have been doing good. Except for saying they were concerned with him missing school. That just set me off. It’s not something I can control.

  • 6
    Buggys says:

    If you do decide to homeschool I’m sure the school system has to provide at least a curriculum for you to follow. I know that there are several home schooling mom on entrecard that could fill in and answer any questions you will have. Good luck whatever you decide is best.
    .-= Buggys´s last blog ..Painted Veil Contest =-.

    admin Reply:

    I think I have come across some. I am really not sure Buggys. The school was willing to accommodate homeschoolers. I just don’t think their plan is strong enough. I really liked the Charter School I talked with. I just can’t remember now which one it was. LOL I still have to give our own school a chance yet. It’s to early to tell what my feelings are yet. I just know that I feel he is missing a lot if he misses like he did in Kindergarten.

  • 7
    Karen says:

    Im sorry I dont have any advice my kids still little. I hope everything works out for ya
    .-= Karen´s last blog ..Geber Graduates Smart Sips Review =-.

    admin Reply:

    It’s ok Karen! Things will work out. I am just gathering thoughts up first and will show my husband when and if I need too. LOL

  • 8
    Erica says:

    Great post! My daughter really needs the social interaction so she can learn how to adapt as she matures. So no homeschooling for her, but different things work for different kids. I wish you luck!
    .-= Erica´s last blog ..To enter the mamavation campaign or to not enter… =-.

    admin Reply:

    That is very true Erica. I want the social interaction for Dakota. I like the peace and quiet. Time will have all my answers.

  • 9
    Sabby says:

    My daughter is autistic and I have always felt that it was important that I be home with her to work with her one on one – because that is what I feel she needs. That said, I have seen this year how very important it is that she have interaction with other children and I’ve mostly changed my mind about homeschooling her.

    If you can find a good school with a program that suits your child’s needs, I would say go for it and take that route. It amazes me just how beneficial it’s been to my daughter to be around other children. She’s learned things I could have never taught her myself. Sure, education is important but there are social skills she’d have never learned otherwise.

    But if you can’t find that, take the home school route. You CAN do this! It’s hard work but who said raising a child with autism was easy anyways? 🙁 If you choose to do home schooling, find another way to socialize. I can’t stress how important I think that is.
    .-= Sabby´s last blog ..My Advice to Obama On Subsidizing Newspapers =-.

    admin Reply:

    Thanks Sabby! I really like hearing your opinions. I see it from both sides. I do know there is a homeschooling group in our county. I know we have set aside gym time for the kids. So I have ideas for socialization. I am going to see how the school will work with us this year. So far things have gone well with working with the school. I just want to know before I make my decision that I have given the school a fair chance. I want to be prepared.

  • 10
    Angela H. says:

    First off I am happy that you are being an advocate for your child. I homeschool 2 of my 4 right now with the 3rd most likely starting some simple things next year.
    The first year I did the whole curriculum for both grades, which were K and 2nd. This year I did separate workbooks for each subject and I like it better. I got all of my items from rainbow resource. Back in New York I had quarterly reports to turn in and end of year items to turn in. Texas (where we are now) is a whole new ball game, I have no one to hold me accountable and it really does make a difference.
    I am also going to start looking into charter schools because I feel the kids can benefit from it. The main thing is that no one knows your child better than you and I know that the classroom setting is not a good place for my kids at this time, it is just too much for them to handle, maybe some year but not this year.
    Whatever you decide will come from your heart and that is what matters most.
    .-= Angela H.´s last blog ..Autism Moms Thursday =-.

    admin Reply:

    Angela I have heard of Rainbow Resource. They have one HUGE catalog. I really am torn on what to think at the moment. I know it’s best he is at school right now. I guess I will know more as the year goes on for school. Really they are much more accommodating then they were when he was in Kindergarden. I want to talk to the special ed director tomorrow on a couple things and see what he has to say.

  • 11
    COUNTRY MOM says:

    Stacie, You can email me and I can give you the link to our homeschool. I love being here with them. We go at their pace. I love every single thing about homeschooling. Let me know if I can help at all. I know if you decide you want to homeschool you can do it. Blessings,
    .-= COUNTRY MOM´s last blog ..Friday Freebies… =-.

    admin Reply:

    Thanks Audrey. I will email you from my charter email. It looks like my aol email except has at the end. I do have some questions and would love imput.

  • 12
    Sherri says:

    Well I don’t any info yet as to what you are asking for but I still wanted to comment. My Mom homeschools(ed) all of my younger siblings. I am the oldest of 7. And public school was too much for them. When I was taught about sex ed in 4th grade, they were nun too happy. I was given the option homeschool or stay with my friends. I pretty much ruined it for the younger ones. My Mom still today is homeschooling. My brother is only 10 yrs old and the oldest still at home is 16 and a Junior. So it has been VERY beneficial for them. The only draw back we have seen is that not being exposed to a public school setting creates a weakened immune system. So going on big outtings and such, someone also gets a cold or sick. But other than that its a HUGE blessing. My sister is 19 and my brother is 21…both in college in TX and doing just fine. So if you can get support via online or a small group close to town…that is a HUGE help!
    .-= Sherri´s last blog ..A Thousand Words Thursday =-.

    admin Reply:

    Thanks for sharing this Sherri. I love the imput. If I do this it will be the Charter School. I plan to exhaust all my options first. So far things are going ok.

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