Round About Update
October 7th, 2009 | 
Author: Well I never got a chance to have a meeting with the teachers this week as Dakota’s teacher, her little baby was really sick with a fever. So we rescheduled it for next week and it should be interesting.
Our meeting is about bullying, planning what to do the rest of the school year if he is sick alot, homework, and what ever other issues come up.
Today we met with the Psychiatrist. They had to adjust his meds. I am really not crazy about all the meds he is on. I think one of them is causing some issues. before they started raising them things were perfect. Well ok maybe not totally as Dakota was still going a million miles an hour and not focusing. On another side he wanted to play with other kids and socialize he was kind and loving well that Dakota is now gone. He can be kind and loving but he gets to out of control and can’t control himself. His sensory issues went a little crazy with the increase. So I really am not sure what to expect on raising one of the meds as I am thinking we have a problem with one of them. Just can’t pin point it. So time will tell what the increased med will do.
Well on the way to school Dakota said he was going to beat up the kids that is bullying him. So I had to alert the teachers of the state of mind he was. Of course nothing happened. I didn’t think it would . Dakota would not intentionally just hurt someone at school. On our way to the cafeteria he said mommy I want J to stop bullying me.
I don’t know if the bullying is contiuing or if he is holding on to that. I warned the teachers if the bullying keeps up I can’t gaurentee that Dakota will not lash back. He will and that is a fact. Now the only person he lashes out at home is me and his brother.
He invades space big time with me and Brittany. I have to find ideas or suggestions on how I can get that to mellow out a little as sometimes it drives me bonkers.
I also had a nice chat with the Special Ed Director. We talked about my ideas of lowering Dakota’s day if we had to and he said they were great ideas. Charter Schooling is my last and final option. I really want Dakota to stay in school to be with his peers. Selfishly I love the space and quiet time too. If we had to adjust it he would get pulled out when the specials started. So that means he would have all his academics done for the day. If that didn’t work we would adjust it to a half day. But again these are all last resorts and things that none of us really want to do right.
I took Brittany to the Doctor today and she still has a ear infection. The good news is it’s only one ear. She also had an eye tooth coming through. The Doctor actually took the time to ask me how Dakota was doing. I thought that was awesome. That actually made my day today!
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Karie said,
Oh Stacie, I would say go with your gut! Tell the docs the meds may be working but he is not himself, or go get another doc or a second opinion! But thats me. I try to follow my gut because I know a mother’s instinct is like nothing on Earth! I hope the year gets better, hopefully its just the adjustment with the new year.
*HUGS!!
Karie´s last blog ..Fisher Price: Playing and Learning
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October 7th, 2009 at 9:00 pm
Karie I did tell the Doctor. I don’t really understand the thinking behind raising one of the meds. I wish we could figure out which med is causing the problems. I would have to say it’s the Clonodine and the increase with that would be my guess. We shall see what happens this time around. I am tried of him being on meds. It’s so frustrating. On a good note it sounds like the school is willing to work with me too. So I am really happy with that. I don’t really have any complaints with the school other then the comment well I am concerned that he is missing so much school so they will be told to please not say that again. LOL
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sheila said,
I agree with Karie above. Get a second opinion possibly. Or just talk to the doc if you like him and see what he’s willing to adjust.
That bullying is just horrible. I feel so bad for your son. Definitely something drastic has to be done. Maybe bring the parents of the other kid in too?
I’ll be thinking of you. My heart goes out to you, this has got to really be tough. Wishing you all the best and more!
sheila´s last blog ..Sky Writing ~ Word(ful) Wednes.
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October 7th, 2009 at 9:04 pm
Sheila I really like this Doctor. I will ask him to explain to me what the meds are for in more detail. He adjusted a higher dose to another med. We shall see how that goes. I think I suspect I know which one is the culprit.
I asked Dakota tonight if the kids was still bothering him he said no. I still hear comments to him in the hallway. So I am guessing Dakota is hanging on to it. I am not sure. Dakota is not good with emotion.
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PJ said,
i would also say to go with your gut. but i am one that always tries to find an alternative way to pharmaceuticals. i have not much faith in modern medicine, but that is just me. i hope things will get better and it’s good to hear that the ear infection is gone in one ear. have a good night stacie…hugz!
PJ´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday (Left Turn Clyde)
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October 8th, 2009 at 6:36 am
I understand exactly where your coming from PJ. I truly wish there was an alternative way then to give him meds. Hope you had a good night!
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Kristin said,
What similar frequent challenges you must encounter on a regular basis. You are a SUPER MOM! There is so much here on your blog, I’ll be sure to return soon for updates.
Kristin
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admin Reply:
October 8th, 2009 at 6:40 am
There are challenges that I go through on a regular basis. There are days I don’t know what to expect. This morning is starting out so much differently. LOL
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veronica lee said,
My son is the only Chinese in his class and right now he’s being harrassed by a disabled boy of another race. The bully is ‘protected’ ‘cos everyone pities him as he has some kinda muscle atrophy and walks with a limp but he pays others to do the dirty work like shoving and spitting at the other kids. He uses his disability to evoke sympathy and my son always ends up looking like the bad guy. I’ve spoken to the teachers but so far nothing has been done but it’s just another month or so before school closes and my son will be going to a new school next year so I decided to just let the matter go. But I’m really mad at the whole issue.
veronica lee´s last blog ..Foie Gras
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October 8th, 2009 at 6:42 am
Veronica Lee I would be mad too! How horrible that your son is going through that. It’s a shame that the school does nothing about it. I hope he enoys his new school. Although Shame on the other school for not doing anything about.
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Vicki@frugalmomknowsbest said,
First of all, I am HUGE with going with mommy instinct. For a year and a half, our ENT told us my son was having normal newborn/infant/toddler congestion. Come to find out, he stopped breathing 24 times an hour!! There is nothing like your intuition!
Secondly, I tear up every time I read these posts about them bullying Dakota. The worst part is, they would say “OMG, Dakota went off on them!!!!” simply because of the situation when it would be TOTALLY justified. I am praying for you and Dakota. It just isn’t fair.
Vicki@frugalmomknowsbest´s last blog ..Finding peace when there just isn’t any
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October 8th, 2009 at 6:46 am
YIKES Vicki that is really scary. I would have had a nervous break down had that happend 24 times in one hour. In fact I would have been panicing the first time and screaming for 911. I remember one time Brittany stopped breathing and just froze. Scared the crap out of me. I didn’t know if she was choking or not. Come to find out later it was bad acid reflux. I swore it was a seizure.
I asked Dakota last night if J was still picking on him. He said no. I know one day in the hallway Dakota made a comment and he said something. I don’t remember what. So it really could just be that Dakota is hanging on to it. Dakota remembers more then I think.
Today is starting out really weird. I woke up Dakota this morning. He took his pills. He went to his room and so did the dog. Which is strange. He isn’t hyper or going bonkers. There was no med changes yesterday. It started this morning. Weird. LOL
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rhubarb said,
Oh, my heart goes out to you and D at this time. Bullying is such a big deal
Hugs
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admin Reply:
October 8th, 2009 at 6:47 am
Thank you Rhubarb. It’s a shame that kids do this. Hope you have a great day.
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Theta Mom said,
I agree with the other ladies, go with yor instincts. It wouldn’t hurt to get another opinion. You know yourself if you are not an advocate for you kid, nobody else will be…trust your mommy intuition. Were usually always spot on!
Theta Mom´s last blog ..Time Out for Theta Mom Thursday
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October 8th, 2009 at 6:51 am
I like this Doctor he is our second Doctor already. I know meds can have side effects. I know that for sure as I went through HORRENDOUS times with my oldest and his meds. Some of me wonders if it’s just not Dakota being Dakota. I am trying really hard to sort out where the behaviors are coming from and are they just him doing these things or are the pills helping. We shall see what happens today. I won’t know unless I try what the Doctor says. The kids have a half day of school today so Dakota will be happy.
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Grampy said,
I am glad Brittany is feeling better.Maya has strep throat.Sounds like the school is going to work with you with Dakota.As a male myself I know that Dakota is only going to take so much of the bullying.I believe he has decided to handle it himself.Hopefully they will leave him alone.There is always something.
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Sherri said,
I can only imagine how you deal with Drs and meds. It might be too far out there for you and your family….but have you ever thought of seeking a naturalpathic dr? I know Gannon doesn’t have adhd but we have seen some great improvments in Gannon’s tolerance to sensory stuff and sitting still. OUr new dr knows I do not want to load him up with meds. Its a journey and I know its not for everyone. But maybe that would be a thought or alternative to consider.
So glad Brit is on the mend….now if she can just get all those teeth
Sherri´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday
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October 8th, 2009 at 10:34 am
Sherri she has a molar coming in. I noticed that this morning. Her teeth are coming in all funny. No wonder she wakes up in the middle of the night screaming. I did think about seeing a natural pathic Doctor. I am not sure there is one in our area. It was brought up at a team meeting a while ago. A girl I am interning with has been blogging about Gluten Free. She has really opened my eyes that it’s really not that bad. If you want to check it out it’s at http://familyfoodies.com her and I both blog there for our intern ship. She has a list of ok things and lists sites. She has been a great resource.
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COUNTRY MOM said,
Stacie, I hope things will work out for your whole family. You have to do, what you feel is best for him.
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