I have known you for about 12 years now. My son who is 12 has high functioning autism and my daughter 6 has Aspergers. We have had many ups and downs and gains and regressions. We just keep trucking along and working through any issues that is tossed our way. We do get through it. The many new things you have thrown at me that go along with autism have created bumps in the road. It’s okay we are used to it and again we got through it.
Through the bullies and people who had the looks of their faces of judgement, I have felt bad, felt mortified, and now I just don’t care what people think. Why do you ask? Well for starters the bullies are just ignorant people who will one day get a kick in the pants from Karama. The others who want to judge well that will pass. You can take the chance to educate and make awareness and acceptance happen.
You have made school for my son impossible. There is no accommodating his needs. It’s more so pushed being mainstreamed in a class that makes things worse. The melt downs, kicking, screaming and biting I have gotten past. Many days of seeing my son shut down broke my heart. We have solved the problem and now he is blossoming with one on one homeschooling. My daughter on the other hand has the want to learn and is blossoming above what she can do in some areas. It’s a pleasure working on their abilities and building off that.
As far as friends my kids have them. With my daughter it’s not always easy as she wants to do things her way and it’s hard for her to let others have a say. She loves people but is a space invader. Yes she does have a couple best friends. My son is getting out there with his friends. He more so has some obsessions with things and finds like minded friends. It’s nice to seem them interact. Although going to places outside of town is hard because of the anxiety, the crowds of people, and maybe even the loud noises. Once again we have worked through this and it’s progress in the works.
You have taught me a lot in the 12 years. Never give up. Don’t stop with answers until your satisfied. Keep on researching. Educate people about you. Embrace what is now.
One of the things is my kids aren’t very good liars as they smile when they lie. I love the fact that they speak what is on their mind. They may not totally get emotions or how express them correctly. They may not understand when someone is joking and may get offended. Just have patience and sometimes chuckle on the inside to get through it.
My favorite thing is both of my kids are unique and that is something you can’t take away from them. They excel at their own pace. They are amazing in their own way. They make my heart full.
So thank you for all the ups and downs we have had to go through. It has made me a stronger person for that. It has taught me to be strong and fight for what I believe. The possibilities are endless.
A Parent Of Autistic Children