Bullying is so uncool
September 18th, 2009 | 
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You know what really gets on my nerves is that kids pick on others because they are different. My son gets shoved into an art table by a kid who says my son is so uncool. I guess there is two kids at school that pick on them.
I am really livid about this as I see how Dakota’s reactions are at home. It’s not good! The things that roll out of his mouth saying he wants revenge on them. It’s bad enough he doesn’t know how to communicate his feelings but he is trying.
I guess they called him a mama’s boy because he gave his sister a huge and kiss. I didn’t tell him to do it. He did it on his own. He loves his little sister so much. It breaks my heart how kids are so cruel now a days.
It’s really sad that a child with a disability is such an easier target of bullying. Kids with Autism have a difficult time
understanding social cues. Dakota is one of them. He can’t handle a joke, or people talking about him, laughing at him. He doesn’t understand.
Some suggestions for bullying:
Going over social interactions that are both positive and negitive. Almost like a mini play or social story that talks about a good interaction and a bad interaction and how to handle the situations. Granted it’s something I am sure will take a while with my son to understand.
Documenting what has happened is another good idea. So if situations happen more then once you know when and where and with whom it involved. Documenting can be a very powerful tool in helping protect your child. Especially if he is or she is being physically abused. Which with Dakota’s case at school it’s emotional and physical abuse.
In our situation my first step is to talk with the teacher and then to the principal. Legal they are suppose to be protecting my child at school. If that don’t work I will proceed to the school board and then the superintendent. If I don’t get any where I will file a complaint with the state.
If I am not happy with what is going on with school in February I can tell you that I will file for school choice next year. I don’t care if I have to drive. I have felt let down by the school before and that is why I pulled him out to homeschool him. I am not just talking about the bullying issue. Right now I have to give the school the benefit of the doubt and see what they will do.
Things are going well so far with how they are adjusting to his needs. So I am pretty positive things will work out. As bullying is not tolerated.
I hope my thoughts on dealing with bullying will help another parent who is dealing with the same thing!
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Tags: asd, aspergers, Autism, bullying, High Functioning Autism, special needs kids
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Liz said,
Poor thing. I hope Dakota is alright. My nephew was bullied when he was in kindergarten. His classmate shoved him. When his mom talked to the teacher, she was told the kid was dealing with his parents’ recent separation. They placed the child under strict guidance and counseling.
I hope things will go well for you and Dakota. Happy weekend!
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admin Reply:
September 18th, 2009 at 9:20 pm
Thanks Liz! It’s rather frustrating. It will be interesting to see how they handle the bullying situation. Will let you all know Monday.
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Vicki@frugalmomknowsbest said,
I’m so sorry, I am sure this hurts so bad. The whole bullying thing scares me so bad. I wish I had even more words of advice, but seems you have some great advice there.
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admin Reply:
September 19th, 2009 at 9:21 am
It does hurt to see him go through this. My oldest went through it at times. Kids are cruel now a days. I think they are meaner then when we were younger.
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Grampy said,
Bullying is an awful thing.Dakota is kind of helpless. If he had a few select friends he hung out with it would probably end. We had a lot of bullies in one of the schools I went to. Luckily I had older brothers to help me. Please do let us know how it goes. My heart goes out to Dakota.
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admin Reply:
September 19th, 2009 at 9:30 am
If Brad was at the same school there is no way he would let this happen to his brother. My two boys may fight like crazy but when it comes down to someone picking on a sibling they stick up for each other! We shall see what the teacher says on Monday.
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Buggys said,
Bullys make my blood boil whether it is an adult or child and yes, kids can be so mean! All you can do is your best to try and make children understand that it isn’t them it’s the bully with the problem.
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admin Reply:
September 19th, 2009 at 7:37 pm
I think in a weird sort of way Dakota understands that. I don’t know sometimes he sends really mixed signals. It’s rather frustrating for sure.
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brock said,
How did everyone handle bullies when they were in school?
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admin Reply:
September 19th, 2009 at 7:37 pm
LOL I won’t go there… I went back at em!!
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Femmepower said,
Oh.I’m sorry about that.I hope Dakota is okay.I hate to see kids bullying other kids but I believe these bullies also have big issues on their own, especially at home.I’ll be crushed to see my daughter getting bullied if ever.I hope Dakota doesn’t get cruel treatments from other kids anymore.
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admin Reply:
September 20th, 2009 at 7:49 am
Your right some of the bullies have bigger problems at home so they take it out on other kids. It’s just really sad. I hope that after talking to the teacher it stops.
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