Bullying Is A Big Problem and It Needs To Stop

Bullying, Anti bullying

Bullying is a big problem every where you go and it really needs to stop. I have been really upset over this weekend. I really want to make a difference and change how things are in town but I don’t even really know where to start. I am terrified for the kids who don’t speak up.

Your probably wondering where all this is coming from. Well there is a very cruel girl who is very manipulating. She also has her followers who are also called croonies. This girl targets kids whose friends are not around and if they are they will manipulate it so that they side with her and the victim is all alone. How do I know this, well because my son went through it and I also have talked with parents and figured out her pattern.

It is really sad when my son can’t go for a walk with out being called names are being flipped off. That is the lesser extent of what they have done to him. There were texts that were not nice sent to my son. I saw them and another mom saw them. The girls phone that this bully took was a friend of Dakota and of course she manipulated the girl to give her the phone. I deleted the texts and the only way to get them is to have them subpoenaed which won’t happen. They were very mean texts. I did talk to the Youth Club where it happened and I did talk to the police. I could have pressed charges but I decided to wait until something else happened as the girl and her little croonies were warned the police would be involved next time.

I think what really had me upset was one of my son’s friend was here yesterday. He mentioned to me that this girl slapped him in the face. I asked him if his friends were around or if he was alone when this happened. His answer was that he was alone. I told him he needed to tell his mom that this happened and that next time he should tell the people at the Youth Club. No one deserves to be hit and we can’t let other kids bully us. It made me think about how many more kids she does this to that are not coming forward.

This girl does this not matter where she is. It could be at the Youth Club, at school, at the park, it really doesn’t matter where she is. I don’t understand how this girl can bully so many kids and get away with it. It is terrible.

When the situation happened at the youth club I called them and went down there. I told them what happened. I was told this girl was walking on thin ice and that they were possibly thinking of not allowing her to come to the youth club. Well to this day she is still allowed to come to the youth club. My feeling is that they are enabling her to bully. Now I am wondering if kids just aren’t telling when incidents happen. Are parents speaking up? Are things just being blown off? I am not sure which one it is yet. They are suppose to have a zero tolerance to bullying.

I feel that this girl is enabled to bully. I don’t feel the youth club is a safe place for my child. As long as she is allowed there my child is not going there. I know other parents that don’t send their child to the youth club for similar reasons. I also feel that the day will come where my son has enough and he will stand up for himself and he will be in the trouble when that happens because everyone will side with the bully and of course the victim is the one in trouble. I encourage my son to walk away and be the better person but they keep on him. A person can only take so much before they lose it. Especially when things like this keep happening.

I feel like I need to be the voice of the kids who are to afraid to speak up. I feel that we as a community have to make more awareness of bullying and what kids can do about it. Bullying is a choice people make and their are much better choices to make then being mean and cruel. I want kids to be able to come forward and tell an adult when something like this happens. It’s not right and no one deserves to be bullied.

I don’t know where to start or how to communicate this really is a big issue. I am one person and more people need to speak up. I can’t do this myself. I did call our police department and the officer was going to talk to the school and youth club and she would have the lady from the youth club give me a call. I figure well it’s a start.

UPDATE: I did hear back from the police officer and he gave the principal a heads up and he talk to the Youth Club he also suggested this girl be kicked out for a time until she learns how to behave. I don’t think that will phase the girl. The lady from the Youth Club will call me back and I will run my idea past her. I feel like this is progress! It may not be the outcome I want at this time but at least I have the ball rolling. I also need to encourage the other parents to speak up! I will do that 🙂 I already know two of them will.

Anyone have any ideas for me?

33 Responses to “Bullying Is A Big Problem and It Needs To Stop”

  • 1
    Susan Evans says:

    I’ve always hated bullies. They have a lack of self-control and over-inflated egos. I used to ignore the bullies at school when I was a kid, but none of them ever slapped me like that. I would pray and ask God for wisdom on what to do.
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    admin Reply:

    I have been struggling with it all weekend. I am terrified for the kids who don’t speak up because this girl is cruel. It’s becoming more and more of problem. Not just here but everywhere. I am still waiting for a phone call and when that call comes hopefully I can make a little more headway. I really want to make a difference for these kids. I just don’t know how as I am only one person. I know I have the support from friends in town as well.

  • 2

    Bullying has become epidemic and is hurting (even killing) our kids. It has to begin in the homes…positive self-esteem and acceptance, that is….it is important that the schools do their part, but it has to begin at home.

    admin Reply:

    I agree Sue and it’s sad though because some parents just don’t care and they allow their kids to do it. I don’t allow my kids to do it and we talk about it a lot. Especially when I know my son is going to head out to a friends house. I am glad that he has a cell phone in case something happens.

  • 3
    Liz Mays says:

    Gosh bullies can be so awful to people. It’s a shame that school administrations never seem to want to intervene.
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    admin Reply:

    The sad thing is they say they have a zero tolerance to bullies but really the bullies just keep on bullying. So it makes me wonder if they aren’t tough enough. My kids are homeschooled thankfully or I know this would be going on at school and I would be all over it. It just really breaks my heart to see it happening to so many kids by the same person and group. It has to end.

  • 4
    Robin (Masshole Mommy) says:

    It;s so sad to hear stories like this. I don’t know how kids can act the way they do sometimes, but you are right – it needs to stop.

    admin Reply:

    I don’t understand it either. I don’t understand how it can make them feel good about themselves.

  • 5

    I think as long as humans have free will, there is bound to be bullying. I’ve exhausted all my efforts with the school system but it seems the harder the kids are pushed – the more they push back and on those that have special needs. I feel your pain.
    Tanya Coffman´s last blog post ..Make Your Own Christmas Incense

  • 6

    Bullying definitely needs to stop. Schools don’t seem to care about it that much these days, it’s terrible!

  • 7
    lisa says:

    Bullying is such a huge problem now and you should not be afraid to seek help! We need to do all that we can to get rid of it.
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  • 8
    Catherine S says:

    It is a shame that we have to worry about our kids being bullied. We homeschooled so I didn’t have to worry about it as much.

    admin Reply:

    I homeschool too and it’s only when my son is out and about in town that this happens. If he did go to school I would see a BIG problem with these kids.

  • 9
    Ann Bacciaglia says:

    Bullying is a terrible problem. It was bad before but at least kids could get a break from it when they went home. Now with the internet and cell phones it never ends.

  • 10
    Michelle Hwee says:

    bullying is definitely one of those rising problems. It does need to stop, we need to join together and do something about it.

  • 11

    It’s a big problem especially with the little kids. I remember when I was in school, I used to get teased a lot 🙁 I hated it! I hated going to school because of that, I wish more parents payed attention to this.
    Shaney Vijendranath´s last blog post ..Being a South African Mommy Blogger

  • 12
    Amby Felix says:

    I never understood bullying and never understood why I was bullied. however, I tell my kids that most of the time, bullies are just insecure and in need of attention and help, so although it may be tough to show empathy for people who are mean, it’s much better than stooping to such a negative level.
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    admin Reply:

    That is very well explained to your kids. They do it to make themselves feel better.

  • 13
    Elizabeth O. says:

    My cousin gets bullied a lot. I’m glad his parents supported him.

    admin Reply:

    I am so sorry that your cousin gets bullied a lot. No one should have to go through that.

  • 14
    R U S S says:

    Bullying is a serious matter and should not be taken lightly. People, parents should take action and at the very least, children should be told that it’s ok to talk about it with their parents. Children ought to be taught that they shouldn’t be scared to speak up. I’ve always disliked bullying. It’s not right.
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    admin Reply:

    Your right it’s not right. I really hope to accomplish some kind of program to make sure that kids are not afraid to speak up. I think so far I have made some progress. It’s going to take a whole lot of work.

  • 15

    I feel so bad for your son. This sort of thing happens everywhere – even in the workplace. I think that kids who are bullies grow up to be bullies.
    Cherri Megasko´s last blog post ..Experience Authentic Native American Culture in Phoenix, Arizona

    admin Reply:

    I agree with Cherri. My son is doing just fine. He gets angry but so far he has been the better person and tried to walk away. It just gets really old after a while.

  • 16
    Rosey says:

    The slap in the face made me start! I think it’s wonderful that you’re taking steps to make sure something is done. Getting the ball rolling is definitely an excellent start! Good luck to you.

    admin Reply:

    Thanks Rosey. I think that is really what upset me the most this weekend was hearing that she slapped him. The boy is such a sweet child and he wouldn’t hurt a fly. I feel there has been a little progress. I haven’t heard back from the Youth Club yet but I do think I will probably after the holidays are over.

  • 17
    Krystal says:

    I worry about my children when they start school. Bullying seems to be getting worse as time goes on.
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    admin Reply:

    You are right it has gotten worse. There is so much more to bully with now then when we were kids.

  • 18

    Back in the 70-80s we did’t call it bulling. We just let it happen and never intervened. I know as I was bullied a lot as a kid. Thanks for sharing this and yes it has to stop.
    SusieQTpies (Susan B)´s last blog post ..A Christmas Story Monopoly and Yahtzee Games for Families

    admin Reply:

    Your right back in the 80’s we didn’t call it bullying. It seems it is more harsher now with all the new technology and social media.

  • 19
    HilLesha says:

    I endured bullying in school as a child. However, bullying was nowhere near as bad as it is today. So sad! There should definitely be an end to it.
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    admin Reply:

    You are exactly right. When we were younger it wasn’t as bad as it is today. There are so much more the kids can bully with all the technology out there now.

  • 20
    Erin Kennedy says:

    This is such an important issue and I am so thankful you shared your story. Thanks for bringing more attention to this serious issue. Bullying should not be tolerated for kids or cyber bullying.

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