Bullying is a big problem every where you go and it really needs to stop. I have been really upset over this weekend. I really want to make a difference and change how things are in town but I don’t even really know where to start. I am terrified for the kids who don’t speak up.
Your probably wondering where all this is coming from. Well there is a very cruel girl who is very manipulating. She also has her followers who are also called croonies. This girl targets kids whose friends are not around and if they are they will manipulate it so that they side with her and the victim is all alone. How do I know this, well because my son went through it and I also have talked with parents and figured out her pattern.
It is really sad when my son can’t go for a walk with out being called names are being flipped off. That is the lesser extent of what they have done to him. There were texts that were not nice sent to my son. I saw them and another mom saw them. The girls phone that this bully took was a friend of Dakota and of course she manipulated the girl to give her the phone. I deleted the texts and the only way to get them is to have them subpoenaed which won’t happen. They were very mean texts. I did talk to the Youth Club where it happened and I did talk to the police. I could have pressed charges but I decided to wait until something else happened as the girl and her little croonies were warned the police would be involved next time.
I think what really had me upset was one of my son’s friend was here yesterday. He mentioned to me that this girl slapped him in the face. I asked him if his friends were around or if he was alone when this happened. His answer was that he was alone. I told him he needed to tell his mom that this happened and that next time he should tell the people at the Youth Club. No one deserves to be hit and we can’t let other kids bully us. It made me think about how many more kids she does this to that are not coming forward.
This girl does this not matter where she is. It could be at the Youth Club, at school, at the park, it really doesn’t matter where she is. I don’t understand how this girl can bully so many kids and get away with it. It is terrible.
When the situation happened at the youth club I called them and went down there. I told them what happened. I was told this girl was walking on thin ice and that they were possibly thinking of not allowing her to come to the youth club. Well to this day she is still allowed to come to the youth club. My feeling is that they are enabling her to bully. Now I am wondering if kids just aren’t telling when incidents happen. Are parents speaking up? Are things just being blown off? I am not sure which one it is yet. They are suppose to have a zero tolerance to bullying.
I feel that this girl is enabled to bully. I don’t feel the youth club is a safe place for my child. As long as she is allowed there my child is not going there. I know other parents that don’t send their child to the youth club for similar reasons. I also feel that the day will come where my son has enough and he will stand up for himself and he will be in the trouble when that happens because everyone will side with the bully and of course the victim is the one in trouble. I encourage my son to walk away and be the better person but they keep on him. A person can only take so much before they lose it. Especially when things like this keep happening.
I feel like I need to be the voice of the kids who are to afraid to speak up. I feel that we as a community have to make more awareness of bullying and what kids can do about it. Bullying is a choice people make and their are much better choices to make then being mean and cruel. I want kids to be able to come forward and tell an adult when something like this happens. It’s not right and no one deserves to be bullied.
I don’t know where to start or how to communicate this really is a big issue. I am one person and more people need to speak up. I can’t do this myself. I did call our police department and the officer was going to talk to the school and youth club and she would have the lady from the youth club give me a call. I figure well it’s a start.
UPDATE: I did hear back from the police officer and he gave the principal a heads up and he talk to the Youth Club he also suggested this girl be kicked out for a time until she learns how to behave. I don’t think that will phase the girl. The lady from the Youth Club will call me back and I will run my idea past her. I feel like this is progress! It may not be the outcome I want at this time but at least I have the ball rolling. I also need to encourage the other parents to speak up! I will do that 🙂 I already know two of them will.
Anyone have any ideas for me?